ENFJ & INFJ Relationship Challenges
This section INFJ-ENFJ relationship is about how these two personality types come together in a relationship. INFJ and ENFJ: Relationships, Emotions and Love. Left: INFJ/ Right: ENFJ. As you can see above, there is an INFJ and an ENFJ. A Protector. ENFJs put a lot of effort and enthusiasm into their relationships. To some extent, the ENFJ defines themself by the closeness and authenticity of their personal.
Struggles However, they may lack interest in everyday living, hence if they are a married couple, household duties may tend to be neglected. Even if they attempt to take care of household, they may still miss important details in its maintenance. The partner that has to be constantly responsible for the everyday maintenance may feel resentment or unfulfilled.
A good balance can be achieved with proper delegation of duties or with the hiring of a domestic helper. Feeling-Feeling Both parties are attracted to each other's warmth, sensitivity and kindness to each other's needs. Both will likely enjoy their expressiveness and natural affection with each other.
Both Feeling types tend to recognize and consider their partner's needs and try to meet them. Hence there is usually high level of harmony in the relationship. Struggles Because both value some level of harmony, they may store up unhappy feelings inside and not share openly.
They may avoid necessary conflict and disagreements; this is unhealthy in the long run for the quality of the relationship. Because both may decisions with their personal values, they may sometimes overlook logical consequences of certain actions. Judging-Judging Joys Because both value organization, they are likely to have a neat and tidy household with clear rules and standards, something which both parties will prefer.
They are likely also to plan their schedules with each other, with little or no issue with unnecessary last minute changes. They will also appreciate their partner's ability to keep up with the demands of everyday living and stay on top.
ENFJ & INFJ Relationship Challenges
They will likely be strong together with budgeting, there will be little or no issues with planning out finances together. Struggles Even though both parties may have standards in the household, they may have very different standards. Because both tend to be opinionated, their arguments and quarrels may be more intense. Both may refuse to budge on their standards and compromise.
Both parties like to settle things; this means that sometimes they may make premature decisions without sufficiently considering their alternative options.
They are warmly affirming and nurturing. The excel at bringing out the best in others, and warmly supporting them. They want responding affirmation from their relationships, although they have a problem asking for it. When a situation calls for it, the ENFJ will become very sharp and critical. After having made their point, they will return to their natural, warm selves.
They may have a tendency to "smother" their loved ones, but are generally highly valued for their genuine warmth and caring natures.
Good verbal communication skills Very perceptive about people's thoughts and motives Motivational, inspirational; bring out the best in others Warmly affectionate and affirming Fun to be with - lively sense of humor, dramatic, energetic, optimistic Good money skills Able to "move on" after a love relationship has failed although they blame themselves Loyal and committed - they want lifelong relationships Strive for "win-win" situations Driven to meet other's needs ENFJ Weaknesses Most ENFJs will exhibit the following weaknesses with regards to relationships issues: ENFJs as Lovers "To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before.
They're totally dedicated to the relationship, and to their partner, and have a special skill for warmth and affirmation which brings out the best in their mates.
INFJ + ENFJ relationship dynamics. | INFJ Forum
They take their commitments seriously, and are likely to put forth a lot of effort into making a relationship work once they have commited themselves to it. In the event that a relationship fails, the ENFJ will feel a lot of guilt, and take on blame for the failure, but they will move on with their lives with relative ease, without looking backwards.
Since relationships are central to the ENFJ's life, they will be very "hands on" and involved with their intimate relationships. They may be in the habit of constantly asking their partner how they're doing, what they're feeling, etc. This behavior may be a bit smothering, but it also supports a strong awareness of the health or illness of the relationship.
Sexually, the ENFJ looks forward to intimacy as an opportunity to express love and caring. The ENFJ is generally very interested in the happiness and satisfaction of their partner.
Because they achieve much of their personal satisfaction from making others happy, they're likely to be skilled lovers. Like other Judgers, the ENFJ is likely to follow a schedule for intimacy, and may be prone to becoming routinized. For the ENFJ, the most important aspect of a sexual encounter is the affirmation of love and affection.
Although the ENFJ will probably not ask for it, they need to be given sweet words and loving affirmation. Since they are so externally focused on serving people, they do not always pay attention to their own needs. Since much of their personal satisfaction comes from bringing happiness to others, they're able to ignore their own needs and still be happy much more easily than other types. However, if they focus entirely on giving without doing some taking, they may find themselves in an unhealthy, unbalanced relationship.
They need to work on being aware of their needs, and being OK with verbalizing those needs to their partners. A problem area for ENFJs in relationships is their very serious dislike of conflict.
ENFJs will prefer to brush issues under the rug rather than confront them head-on, if there is likely to be a conflict. They are also likely to "give in" easily in conflict situations, just to end the conflict.
They might agree to something which goes against their values just to end the uncomfortable situation.How I (an ENFJ) view INFJs
In such cases, the problem is extended and will return at a later time. The ENFJ needs to realize that the world will not end if there is a disagreement, and that dealing with things immediately initiates closure. Ignoring issues will not make them go away. In general, the ENFJ is intensely and enthusiastically involved in their personal relationships. They bring fun and warmth into the equation, and are willing to work hard to make things work. How did we arrive at this? Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
They consider the task of passing on values and goals to their children as paramount, and will strive to consistently be a good role model to their children. The ENFJ considers it their responsibility to make sure that their children turn out well.