How to Enjoy a No Strings Attached Relationship | Menprovement
We all know that not all committed relationships work out, either. You owe it to yourself and to your partner to find out if you're on the same. The whole idea of no strings attached is to keep it casual. A no strings attached relationship is about sex, not friendship. A friend counts See other people. Perhaps you are single, but in a no-strings-attached (NSA) sexual find it difficult to have casual sex without getting their hearts involved or.
If you sleep 8 hours a day and work the remaining 16 hours on your business, choosing a no strings attached relationship might be the best solution for you. Then you are not allowed to have any no strings attached relationship…muahahaha!
I am just kidding. It is totally okay to want such a relationship. It might be exactly what you need, especially when you want to get it out of the system. When I broke up with my ex-girlfriend, getting it out of my system aka sleeping with a lot of different women was the only thing I could think off. If I would have ended up in a monogamous relationship without ever having multiple sexual partners, I would be very miserable today.
How to Have a No Strings Attached Relationship Now that you know whether or not a no strings attached relationship is what you need, it is time to have a look at how to end up in one.
The sad truth is that a lot of men dream of having such a relationship while only a few of them actually experience it.
There is a simple reason for that: In the real world, there are thousands of women who secretly fantasize about having a no strings attached relationship with a man who fucks her good. Choose the Right Girl Hint: She is NOT Your Friend The tricky question that everyone who dreams about a no strings attached relationship should ask himself is: There is nothing wrong about that, but only if both of you can handle it. There are too many emotions involved and ruining a life-long friendship for a few orgasms is just not worth it.
Make It Clear From the Beginning I already addressed the number one issue that men have when it comes to no strings attached relationships: They think that no woman is down for it. Lies, broken promises and a lot of tears. Do you want a sexual relationship that allows you to sleep with other women? Then have the balls and say it!
Dos & Donts Of No Strings Attached
Sorry bro, but saying that you want a monogamous relationship and then cheating on her is not what a real man does.
A real man is honest and authentic. Establish Some Ground Rules Have you been honest to her? Even though this form of relationship can be described as free and alternative, a few basic rules make it a lot more enjoyable and safe.
You both have other sexual partners.
Not using condoms would be very, very stupid. End this whole thing as soon as one of you gets jealous. If you ignore this rule, it will get messy. She is brave enough to do something that others would judge her for.
Now that you have established a few rules, it is time to have fun in the sheets. This is something that a lot of guys mess up and that I messed up big time when I was in a no strings attached relationship. Holding hands is tempting, but it is a no-go when you want to keep it casual. Sending the wrong signals can easily lead to wrong assumptions and wrong assumptions can easily lead to disappointment.
Be careful about the signals you send and the way she looks at you. This is especially true for a no strings attached relationship. Engaging in sex with someone you're not in a relationship with is a gamble, and you shouldn't gamble unless you can afford to lose. One likely scenario is you are hoping that your casual relationship might turn into something more serious. This is not unheard of, but going into it wishing and hoping for that is a bad strategy.
You must learn to listen to what people tell you - and if their words and or actions are telling you they want to keep it casual -- believe them. If the sex in question is with a friend or someone else who is likely going to be a continued presence in your life, modify this question to say: If this person tells me they are no longer willing or available to have sex with me, will I be OK with that?
The same principle applies - if your friend with benefits falls in love with someone else next week, how will that make you feel? If it would make you feel badly, then you are more attached than you have admitted to yourself. Am I able to communicate honestly with this person? I was recently asked by a woman if it was OK to ask a guy if he was sleeping with anyone else before she had sex with him.
And if you can't, then do not have sex with him. I often hear women say they don't want to ask if the relationship is going anywhere before sex for fear of "scaring him off". If asking that question scares a guy off, he is doing you a favor. Better you find out now then after you have slept with him and your feelings are even more pronounced. You owe it to yourself and to your partner to find out if you're on the same page.
The right man for you won't be deterred by your honest desire to have a relationship - he'll be psyched!
If you feel uncomfortable asking about a potential partner's sexual activity, the status of your relationship, or communicating any boundaries or preferences you have, do not do it. Sex doesn't have to mean everything, but it is an intimate act that can have serious, life-changing consequences no matter how safe you endeavor to be. You deserve the self-respect to make sure that your sexual partners respect you enough to make you feel heard and respected.
If you can't honestly communicate with this person and you're still willing to have sex with them, it could be a sign of a bigger self-esteem issue that is holding you back from the love you are seeking. Am I able to practice safe sex with this person? Even with all of the education we have in this day and age about STDs, to say nothing of pregnancy, unprotected sex is still the norm for many.
If you are about to engage in sex with someone who refuses to use protection, do not do it! This is a no-no even if you are a woman on the pill or some other form of birth control and your risk of pregnancy is low. She has any new sex partner take the tests before sex. And they still use condoms. Talk about being able to articulate your boundaries!
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You don't have to have an at-home pharmacy if you don't want to, but at a bare minimum you should use condoms with any casual sex partners. Talk to your doctor about appropriate birth control options for you.
Love yourself enough to not succumb to pressure - anyone who is pressuring you to have unprotected sex does not respect you or themselves enough to be worthy of sleeping with you. Am I actively dating people who share my relationship goals? We often focus on the physical risks of sexual activity, but the emotional risks are just as high. For one, if you are using casual partners as a way to feel less lonely or to compensate for the intimacy you are seeking, there is a high likelihood you're holding yourself back.
It is a leap of faith to believe that you can have the love you are seeking. Using casual partners as a crutch is a signal to your unconscious self and to the universe that you are willing to settle for less.